Second Trimester Recap

Since I skipped the weekly updates... this is my improvising with the second trimester recap!  I cannot believe I'm heading into the third trimester this week... it seems like just yesterday I got the phone call that has since set our lives in a new and wonderful direction.  Blessed and beyond words for how thankful we are to be at this point in the pregnancy! 

How far along: Weeks 14-27

Symptoms:  Pregnancy brain... putting boxed food in the fridge for example, many nightly potty trips, some acid reflux for the first part of the second trimester, stuffy/bloody nose, some swelling in ankles if I'm on my feet for an extended time and oh-so-fun hot flashes for the past couple of weeks!  Still... not complaining, just documenting:]

Baby Related Purchases:  More yardsale finds... onesies, a wipe warmer, a bumbo seat, baby carrier and some toys.  Oh, PC and I also bought the bedding, a simple but sweet brown and blue pattern (below).  I finished our registry and there are some groups of friends/co-workers who want to go in on the bigger items (pack-n-play, travel system, etc. woo-hoo!)  Grandparents bought the nursery furniture and he already has a closet full of cute clothes thanks to grandma!

    

Maternity clothes:  I hit the jackpot this trimester with being able to go through two tubs of clothes from ladies my size who are done having babies.  Pants for $5 and shirts for $3... so I now have a complete fall/winter maternity wardrobe, all for under $100... score! 

Sleep: The boppy has been a big help but the trips to the bathroom have never slowed down, bleh.  I would say a night with 5 or more hours of sleep would be called a successful night!   

Best Moment of the Trimester:  Finding out the gender!  Feeling him kick and flip around in there!   

Strangest Moment:  The movement has been strange and so reassuring at the same time. 

Movement:  Finally, a little each day around week 19 and usually around the same time of the day.  From week 20 to the present, the kicks and flutters have been a constant reminder of what a miracle all of this is!  I didn't feel him move much the day before a recent doctor's appointment so I left work early to go to the appointment because I (along with PC) was starting to stress out a little.  I ate chocolate, laid on my side, drank fruit juice, poked him... and could not get any strong movement.  Dr. B6 did an ultrasound and it turned out that the little guy has recently turned completely frank breech and I was feeling less movement with the new position and his longer sleep cycles.  Dr. B6 said he has plenty of time to flip back around... let's hope so.     
 

Cravings:  Arby's roast beef and curly fries,  nectarines and blueberries, mint chocolate klondike bars, captain crunch cereal, and must confess....I've had a cup of coke or sweet tea pretty much every day this trimester. 

Gender:  BOY

What I miss:   Sleeping with PC, but I would feel worse keeping him up through the night...

What I am looking forward to: Completing the nursery and holding him, getting a step closer to a long-time dream every day and it brings tears to my eyes every time I think about it.  If only we could decide on a name!!!   

Weekly (or Second Trimester) Wisdom:  Let people help!   

Milestones: Entering the Third Trimester!

Sticky Bun is the size of: As of week 27, he is 2 lbs 3 oz with his head measuring ahead of schedule and his legs measuring behind.  The ob/gyn says not to worry and it sounds pretty much like his parents' genes anyway!

(No) Labor Day!

Labor Day has started off in the recliner on a rainy day, still in pajamas, with weeks worth of catching up on blogs as the task at hand:]  PC has decided to make his work day as light as possible so he's had his nose in a book (or guess I should say the Nook) this morning too.  A rare but welcome change of pace in our home today. 

As far as news with Baby Boy (still no name)--- we're both growing!  Total weight gain so far has been 15 pounds and I think most of it arrived the past three weeks!  It's also spreading to my backside and my ankles and my hands... but we'll worry about that later, right?!?  

We haven't seen him via u/s since July but I do know he is there with all of the kicking and flipping that goes on throughout the day.  PC and I found some great bargains at a yard sale this weekend... a babybjorn carrier, a keltikids backpack carrier, a bumbo seat, a boppy, a box full of good toys, crib sheets, changing sheets- all for $70.  I know these are all things we could put on a registry, but getting these things used for a fraction of the original price means I can reduce the registry to some true essentials like diapers and such.  My mom bought him the cutest outfit, I love this...

PC and I are just working and trying to take one day at a time as we have 14 weeks left in this pregnancy... can't even believe that as I type it!!! 


Now back to catching up on what's been going on with all of you the past couple of weeks!

Viability & Vocation!

Long lost blogger here to say "24 weeks today BABY!"  I don't have to share the significance of that here... a milestone that we've been waiting on!  It feels like, from this point on, I can count each week as another big step forward in getting closer to our little miracle baby.

Maybe we should really start figuring out a name for this little guy!

No time like the present to tell you all why I've been an absent blogger since mid-July and the "name game" is so difficult.  I've never really said exactly what my job is here because the purpose of this blog has been so entirely separate from what goes on in my professional life.  I also never wanted to risk someone IRL coming across this blog and misinterpreting anything.  However, I rarely mention my work here and have no intentions of using this blog for discussing anything that happens at work so I'm not worrying about it anymore!  What a blog "mouthful" to say that I'm in the field of education.  I've been absent in blog world to get everything prepared for a new school year and then they all showed up!  Whew!  My job was tiring without being pregnant!  That's another reason it's so hard to narrow down the list of names!  Every name makes me think "that name belongs to that child" even though I know our child can share a name.  (Well, minus those of repeat offenders, lol!)  I've had a few little kids point and ask "is that a baby in there?"  I just smile and say "yes it is" and go on with business as usual.

Infertility is hard for everyone but for those of us in education, it is especially difficult to give so much of your life to taking care of other people's children every day... and wanting so badly to share some of those experiences as a parent.  It was all I could do to hold back the tears at the end of the school year when I was still keeping it a secret that I was pregnant and our Pre-K students sang about saying goodbye to their friends and being ready for Kindergarten.  I can't wait for those special moments... with camera and kleenex in hand of course:]   

Doggie(s)

I'm so behind in the blogosphere I don't know when or if I'll ever catch up!  I went back to work last Monday and the month of August continues to be a blur right now!  I did find time this weekend to have a photo shoot with our furbabies in order to put their pictures up in the nursery.  Will it be okay if our baby's first word is doggie?  :] 

From one IF to another

The following is a recent email conversation with another IF sister that I know IRL.  She went through IVF a few years ago and it didn't work.  My heart hurt to type the words "I'm expecting" and hurt when I got the response because I want this so badly for her too.  I'm posting the conversation here because our words to each other would be so foreign to those who never had trouble conceiving.  But it's as if we spoke back and forth in true IF language and I will always remember what it was like to get to this point and that I have friends through the blog world and IRL who are still fighting and how much I want you/them to WIN. 

Me:  Hi B!  I wasn't sure if you had heard the news that I'm expecting. I wanted to tell you that we went through IVF this past spring... I only had 5 eggs... 4 fertilized... 2 normally (none to freeze) and one stuck!  It's hard to send this to someone who I want the same outcome for so badly on this journey that we didn't ask for.  I know you will still be happy for me... not holding a baby yet, but closer than ever to beating infertility. 

M!  No, I hadn't heard!  I must say, I'm glad to hear it from YOU!  I know it's hard to share with someone who deals with infertility but I'm so glad you did and of course I'm happy for you!  I'm glad you only had to go through IVF once.  It's not the most enjoyable experience is it?  We still have 5 frozen embryos...as I was so friendly reminded when the "storage" bill arrived recently.  Not sure when we'll go through the process to use them...time is running out (turned 38 this summer....ugh.)  In the meantime, we've recently begun paperwork to adopt from China.  The wait is really long, but our hearts our led to see it through.  Back to your good news....please take care of yourself, enjoy, breathe deeply, and take in every precious moment.  You deserve it and are going to be such a great mom!!!

Me:  Thank you!  I couldn't have gone through IVF more than once financially, physically or emotionally so I'm certainly counting my blessings.  I missed so much work and my backside is still sore from the progesterone shots that ended 8 weeks ago!  People think that IVF always works the first time and results in boy/girl twins, so far from the truth!  We just got a bill yesterday for the back-up (required) sample of frozen sperm... people just DON'T know!  It's not that I want anyone to experience it, but some level of understanding and sensitivity from the fertile myrtles would be nice.  I'm excited to hear about the adoption process and I will pray that it happens sooner than later for you!  Just know that you have a supporter here and I will be celebrating when I get the same update from you!!! 

Eek...haven't had those progesterone shots in a while, but I can feel your pain...literally!  And I think it hurts our husbands as much as it hurts us!  You are so right that people just don't know.  One year when we had several pregnancies here, someone said to me, "you should drink from the water fountains."  REALLY?  I can't even respond when people say stuff like that because I'm so dumbfounded and speechless.  I could go on and on about comments from the fertile myrtles, but I won't.  I'm sure you've heard it all, too!